Attending a funeral can be a new and unfamiliar experience, especially when it comes to deciding what to wear. Knowing what to wear can help you feel more prepared and respectful during this emotional time.
While many aspects of funerals have become more relaxed over the years, such as dress code and funeral music, it’s still important to consider the specific circumstances of the service.
Before you choose an outfit, it’s always a good idea to check with the family of the deceased. In many cases, they may have specific requests or suggestions for funeral attire that reflect their loved one’s personality or preferences.
While some families might opt for bright colours or a specific theme, it's important to consider that in more traditional services, wearing darker tones may still be seen as a mark of respect.
If there are no specific requests the family have made for funeral attire, here are some ideas for funeral outfits:
Funeral outfits for women
Women’s funeral outfits are typically formal clothes in dark colours. While black is the traditional choice, you can also consider other dark, muted colours like grey or burgundy. If you’re comfortable and feel you’re dressed respectfully for the deceased and their family, this is the most important thing.
Funeral outfits for men
When choosing a man’s outfit for a funeral, a dark or black suit is often a classic and appropriate choice. However, modern funerals allow for some flexibility. While funeral attire has become more relaxed, avoid wearing jeans or trainers, unless requested by the family.
What to wear at a summer funeral
If you’re attending a funeral in the summer, there are options available to ensure you stay cool while ensuring you’re still dressed respectfully. Opting for lightweight fabrics such as linen or cotton should help, and accessories can be worn to protect you from the sun. Ideas for summer funeral outfits could include: • Linen or cotton blouse with a dark coloured skirt or trousers • Short-sleeved dress in a dark colour • A lightweight cardigan or blazer • Hats, sunglasses, and fans can be used to accessorise and keep cool.
What to wear to a winter funeral
Dressing for a funeral in the winter means dressing in more layers to adjust to the changing temperatures, particularly if the funeral is held in a church, or requires those attending to wait outside before or after the funeral has taken place.
Ideas for winter funeral outfits could include:
• Long-sleeved dresses
• A dark-coloured formal coat
• Trousers, long-sleeved blouse with a dark-coloured sweatshirt or jumper.
• Long-sleeved shirt and tie, with a dark jumper worn over the top.
• Smart boots
• Smart scarves and gloves could be worn for extra warmth.
What to wear for a religious funeral
When attending a religious funeral, it’s important to speak with the family of the deceased or research and follow the specific dress code guidance of that faith. Different religions may have unique traditions and expectations.
It’s important to dress modestly and respectfully, considering the specific traditions and expectations of the religious service.
Examples of religious funeral outfit expectations could include: • Muslim funeral clothes: Men could be expected to wear a thobe or kurta, and women could be expected to wear a hijab or abaya. • Christian funeral clothes: Men and women could be expected to wear more traditional funeral clothing, such as a black suit and tie, and women to wear modest, formal dresses and tights.
Colour-themed funeral outfits
Modern funerals often embrace a more colourful and celebratory approach. Families may choose to respect their loved one’s wishes by suggesting specific colour theme for funeral attire. This can be a way to reflect the deceased’s personality or create a more uplifting atmosphere.
If you’re attending a colour-themed funeral, you don’t have to wear the colour from head-to-toe. Incorporating the chosen colour into your funeral outfit can be a meaningful way to show your respect and support.
What not to wear for a funeral
While funeral attire has become more relaxed, it’s still important to avoid wearing overly casual clothing, unless requested by the family.
Casual clothing such as jeans, T-shirts, trainers, and flip-flops may not be the most appropriate choices. Additionally, revealing clothing, such as low-cut dresses or short skirts, should also be avoided.
Remember, the focus of the funeral is on honouring the deceased and supporting the grieving family. Choosing a respectful funeral outfit that is appropriate and comfortable is important.
